It’s essential that white America join the conversation about race and actively participate in the fight for equality, but there are right ways, and wrong ways, to do it. For solid guidance, check out Vox writer Emily Stewart’s conversation with Ijeoma Oluo, author of the book So You Want to Talk About Race. Says Oluo: “I always ask myself when I’m trying to do solidarity work, can the people I’m in solidarity with actually feel this? Can they spend this? Can they eat this? Does this actually help them in any way? And if it doesn’t, let it go.”